Why is that? Why is it that you’re fine by yourself but after a relationship yourself just isn’t enough anymore? Tuesday, Sep 25 2012 

You’re fine and you’re happy, things are going right,

You’re self-sufficient intelligent and bright.

He comes along and you think, yes wow,

Things really are going my way now.

The days go on, the months, the years,

It’s subtle at first and you don’t ever realize.

Then one day he’s gone, bish bash, bagoon!

That’s when you realize how much you’re world changed, how much you’ve changed. You realize he became the glue that held you together, you got used to this glue, and even though you have the same job and everything else in your life is great, somehow it’s harder and different, you can’t keep yourself together anymore.

Why is that?

Grace x

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‘One true measure of a person is how much he or she hurts others.’ Sunday, Sep 23 2012 

I literally just heard this quote on Ally McBeal right now, and it really resonated with me. The fact is, if you’re a good person you will hurt others when you break up with them, move, die etc. It’s odd how the people who are the best often cause the most pain, the most heartache, the most worry. It’s strange how those who are bad and actively seek to hurt people will rarely be able to hurt someone as much as a loved one is able to hurt them. The fact that you have the potential to hurt someone demonstrates your good qualities- it shows that people care for you, perhaps because you’re family, because you’re a good friend or just generally a good person. Funny isn’t it, how those who want to hurt people the least do it the most. Nevertheless, the pain they bring is not of the pointless kind that bad people bring, good people bring the pain that reminds us of their goodness, kindness and love- it is a pain that makes it abundantly clear to us how much we love them and how much they love us.

Grace x

Your mood Tuesday, Sep 18 2012 

We’re happy, laughing, there is joy all around.

Nothing bad happens but all of a sudden you’re in a bad mood

You’re miserable, quite, there is sadness all around.

The thing is, when I ask you say it’s nothing…

Am I imagining it? This shift in mood? Am I going crazy?

I’m the one who pushes you into being in a mood I think…

My insistent asking must get annoying.

Just know that I love you and I worry because I never want anything to be wrong with you- and if there is, I want you to tell me. I’m sorry if I annoy you, I know it’s ridiculously counter-productive, but I just can’t seem to stop. I don’t know why this seems to be the only thing I don’t trust you on. Maybe I’m insecure? I don’t know. Just remember that I love you

Grace x

Oh what’s this? A new catergory? (and a question of rebounds) Sunday, Sep 16 2012 

Basically, I have decided to divide my musings about things boyfriend related and those boyfriend unrelated: the reason- my blog seems to be getting a bit overwhelming and confusing with all these random posts.

I do apologies if you try to seek out some single Grace sense and find ‘boyfriend’ is briefly mentioned- he is kind of constantly around. I also quite like the idea of describing some of my single escapades.

So there, some division in the blog. I like it. I shall try to uphold it. Also, I have slacked on this question business I said I would do so I have a new one to ask you lovely people and give my answer too:

Question 7: When would you say that you were no longer on the rebound and how long would you leave someone who just broke up with someone before beginning a relationship with them

Answer 7: The first part of the question is rather cryptic, I mean, I don’t think there’s a definitive turning point and I think that even after you are done with the ‘rebound’ period you may still go out with people who you don’t actually see anything further happening with. In terms of the second part I do think it is very hard to leave someone after a break up if you liked them whilst they were in a relationship- for this reason I have jumped in to a relationship with these people rather quickly. Most of the times it hasn’t worked at all. If they liked you before the break up there is perhaps hope; but then the whole trust issue is raised. I think if you do go into a relationship with a person like this quickly- step lightly and don’t become too serious too fast.

Grace x

The New Worst Way To Break Up With Someone Is Called ‘Ghosting’ Wednesday, Sep 12 2012 

This is awful! In fact, this is so awful that I have interrupted my whole telling of the weird guys I met yesterday to bring shocking news…apparently people now just complete ignore and avoid you as a way of breaking up! What on earth is happening? According to the video people do this even in long term relationships that have lasted years!
‘Ghosting’ is completely unacceptable!
You are essentially prohibiting someone from moving on and are just being a childish coward.
Watch the video people!

Grace x

An interesting and confusing tea Saturday, Sep 8 2012 

Today I’ve been rather bored in the day so agreed to go to coffee with a guy who used to be a good friend of mine but has recently begun to be a bit of a douche. You see, he started going to the gym; his dad gave him mass amounts of money; his dad got him a car; he grew his hair; he got good looking- so basically life is shining for him right now. However, in groups of people he always feels the need to discuss how ‘toned’ and ‘ripped’ he is becoming and how he has so much money- this, as you can imagine, would highly annoy those of us who have eaten crap all year and have finished our over drafts. He also got a rather attractive girlfriend which made his ego even bigger and he became obsessed with bragging about how ‘whipped’ she was; how she would do anything for him and how he had even cheated on her and she forgave him basically instantly because he was her God.

Anyway, this guy goes to the same university as me but I don’t really see him much unless I’m home as we live very far away from each other at university and have completely different friends. I felt like I hadn’t really seen or spoken to him much this summer and I felt that as he was one of my best friends before university I should really have a catch up with him, plus, him and his girlfriend had just broken up.

We went for tea at a local cafe and chatted, it was actually really nice, I mean, he didn’t really brag about money and brought up the fitness thing in a minimal way. Also, his egotistical things were said with humour rather than with condescension. In fact, I had a really good time with him, we laughed and shared stories and talked about his break up and my relationship. It was absolutely lovely and I’m glad I met up with him.

The thing that puzzled me however was the way in which his girlfriend saw him. Now, I know love is said to be blind, forgiving etc. etc. but come on girl; there has to be a limit! He showed me these texts from her which literally called him her God; others said she hadn’t moved out of bed in days and others that she could never let him go and that she hadn’t yet stopped crying. Now, I understand that heartbreak is horrific but I just don’t understand why she put up with his bullshit for this long- he never called; he cheated on her numerous times; he had sex with her best friend; he had tried to break up with her numerous times; she had walked in on him having sex; he didn’t cuddle… the list just goes on!

Also, I never understand why some people feel the need to send these guilt filled and emotional texts to ex’s- now I know that it may help some but the thing is, a text is NOT going to make them come back to you, especially if they are truly pathetic ones. Also, if they do come back, would you want to be with them, you would then know they are with you out of pity.

I don’t know. I’m just confused how you could have so little self respect to allow yourself to be treated like that and then want more of it!

Also, I don’t understand why he bothered to be with her if he never liked her that much and was just going to cheat.

Grace x

What does he see? Wednesday, Aug 29 2012 

I wonder what he sees when he looks at me

I’m a mess, I whine and moan.

I overthink, I pick fights

I think he’s imperfect,

I think I love him.

I wonder what he sees when he looks at me,

The days I think I look good,

Does he see it?

Does he see my outside or my inside?

I wonder what he sees when he looks at me?

I love him,

I fear he’ll leave

I wonder what he sees when he looks at me,

Does he see a future?

I want to cuddle up with him

I wonder if he sees what I hope he does when he looks at me.

Grace x

Past Few Days Wednesday, Aug 29 2012 

Hey guys, so, I have gone a bit AWOL (absent without official leave; yes I did look up the official definition). Well, it has been a hectic few days. You see, my boyfriend doesn’t know about this blog (as some of you will know he’s in the same friendship group as me, and well, I can’t loose another place to vent about him in), so, it can be difficult to write sometimes as we are pretty much together 24/7.

Mon 27th: First of all, we managed to get into a massive fight where he threatened to leave the house because he didn’t want to stay here and I spoke like I had decided to break up with him (I do this quite a bit though, it makes him think about what he’s saying more). The fight was basically, well, about fighting. It seems that I am the one who brings up issues and somehow, even if I start as the one who is upset he manages to turn it so I end up apologising to him. We made up pretty well though and ended up having a very good night. The thing is, I’m not surprised we ended up fighting, I mean, we were in the process of moving rooms in the house and some general re-decoration; as you can imagine that is bloody strenuous! I am also very adverse to team work, I hate it. This was made even worse by the fact that he only has one hand. It was a stressful day. I think I will be doing house modifications myself in the future, I seem to be a lot better than him at DIY anyway!

Tue 28th: Our friendship group usually goes to a specific pub on Tuesdays, they have pound drinks and basically everyone we know is there and it’s generally quite great. Now, me and my boyfriend were all for going, especially as this week we would be celebrating a mutual friend’s birthday as for her actual birthday she would be away at uni (those of you who have read my earlier posts, this was Chelsea by the way). Now, a few hours before we are about to go he notifies me that a friend of his is back from a month long holiday so he will be going to see him. Now, I would usually not mind but after the day before I really wanted to spend time with him and definitely spend the night. In the end though we ended up going food shopping and he got a bit lazy and cuddly and asked if I just wanted to stay home. I said yes.

Wed 29th: He has just left to have dinner at his dad’s and I am quickly back on WordPress! Although I should probably be doing house work I shall probably be posting like a lunatic! 

Fun Facts:

I now have a different room

I have drastically changed my hair colour (light blonde to dark brown)

I am going to attempt to be tidy!

…These changes are interesting after I have recently posted about wanting to mix things up.

I’m happy.

Happy Wednesday people!

Grace x