Why is that? Why is it that you’re fine by yourself but after a relationship yourself just isn’t enough anymore? Tuesday, Sep 25 2012

You’re fine and you’re happy, things are going right,

You’re self-sufficient intelligent and bright.

He comes along and you think, yes wow,

Things really are going my way now.

The days go on, the months, the years,

It’s subtle at first and you don’t ever realize.

Then one day he’s gone, bish bash, bagoon!

That’s when you realize how much you’re world changed, how much you’ve changed. You realize he became the glue that held you together, you got used to this glue, and even though you have the same job and everything else in your life is great, somehow it’s harder and different, you can’t keep yourself together anymore.

Why is that?

Grace x

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SERIOUSLY?!?! Monday, Sep 24 2012

Now, for the people who read my blog, you will know I am not slutty when it comes to capitals, I use them sparingly and the whole ‘?!?!’ has not even been used yet. However, now is the time!

So, I’m all casually sitting on Facebook; reading some blogs; playing some Tetris etc. etc. and begin talking to a friend of mine from university. We’re chatting about the normal stuff and I ask who’s back and he says that actually he saw one of my friends yesterday. He said that she was happy and everything with her was good but did mention that her room was absolutely tiny in her new house.

“She said I’d love her new room haha! Has she got a single bed?” Is my response.

“Yeah,” he says. “The only reason she got that room was because the other girls had boyfriends.”

WHAT!?!

That is one of the most idiotic things I have ever heard in my life! Why should rooms be decided upon because someone has a boyfriend. I mean, obviously I understand the practicalities of it (sleeping, clothes etc.) but this cannot mean that rooms are decided like this! Why should someone be punished for the fact that their housemates have boyfriends?

Also, none of the girls in the house have steady relationships: one cheated on her boyfriend and they are very on and off and the other slept with everyone last year and got a boyfriend like a month ago- surely you cannot decide a year long living arrangement on these facts! These girls lived in halls last year and all had single beds, they survived that didn’t they?!

I am absolutely astonished that this was the way to pick rooms, what happened to picking out of a hat?

Why should a single person not get the chance to have a double bed because they are single, they may even have more people in it if their into that sorta thing! And if not, they should still be allowed a double bed, I mean, your boyfriend isn’t even always going to be there so essentially you’re getting a double bed because of a Facebook status.

I’m not sure why I’m so angry, this in no was effects me but I am.

I am SO angry!

Grace x

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You have something amazing, now you need others to know you have something amazing and be jealous of it! Sunday, Sep 23 2012

Right, you have the career you want and it’s fantastic: you feel the need to bring it up in front of your unemployed friend

You’re boyfriend is a wonder: you feel the need to bring it up in front of your single friend.

You did great in your university exams: you feel the need to bring it up in front of your flunking friend.

…And the list just goes on. Now, I cannot say that I am not guilty of this, in fact I would actually say that I am a person who does this. It’s awful and it does not portray me as a good person in the slightest but can anyone sympathize? You have what you want but you feel the need to mention it to people who don’t. I think I’m particularly guilty in the boyfriend department, I have this thing where I say things which sound bad about him (e.g. he leaves his shit fucking everywhere), when I actually mean it in a very endearing way.

Does it mean I’m insecure?
…Or am I just an awful human being?

I think I do this most to someone who used to be a really close friend of mine, she dated my boyfriend for about 2 months- they broke up and a few months later I was dating him. She’s single and her last boyfriend left her for some random girl who he had also cheated on her with for months. I don’t know why I need to slide things about mine and Jeff’s happiness, maybe I’m like a dog, marking territory and all that. I don’t know why I do it but I do, maybe I just want her to know that what they had isn’t anywhere close to what we have. I know that’s pathetic and it doesn’t matter- is this a way in which I portray us as being so much more. I know it’s stupid to even compare: I mean, 2 months to 2 years where we have been able to stay together through a whole year of university and have lived together all summer.

Maybe I’m just insecure.

Grace x

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Oh what’s this? A new catergory? (and a question of rebounds) Sunday, Sep 16 2012

Basically, I have decided to divide my musings about things boyfriend related and those boyfriend unrelated: the reason- my blog seems to be getting a bit overwhelming and confusing with all these random posts.

I do apologies if you try to seek out some single Grace sense and find ‘boyfriend’ is briefly mentioned- he is kind of constantly around. I also quite like the idea of describing some of my single escapades.

So there, some division in the blog. I like it. I shall try to uphold it. Also, I have slacked on this question business I said I would do so I have a new one to ask you lovely people and give my answer too:

Question 7: When would you say that you were no longer on the rebound and how long would you leave someone who just broke up with someone before beginning a relationship with them

Answer 7: The first part of the question is rather cryptic, I mean, I don’t think there’s a definitive turning point and I think that even after you are done with the ‘rebound’ period you may still go out with people who you don’t actually see anything further happening with. In terms of the second part I do think it is very hard to leave someone after a break up if you liked them whilst they were in a relationship- for this reason I have jumped in to a relationship with these people rather quickly. Most of the times it hasn’t worked at all. If they liked you before the break up there is perhaps hope; but then the whole trust issue is raised. I think if you do go into a relationship with a person like this quickly- step lightly and don’t become too serious too fast.

Grace x

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